“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown
Things changed. You can’t put your finger on it, but you know it’s true. You wish you could make it better. You want to fix it.
The problem is that you don’t know how. Maybe it’s already too late, and the relationship ended despite all your efforts.
In the barrage of cliché advice and consolation you get from friends, relatives, and “experts,” the answer is as elusive as ever. It’s not helpful when people tell you that it just wasn’t meant to be, time heals all wounds, or that sometimes couples grow apart.
So what is the trick? What is the secret to having a happy, long-lasting relationship?
THE SECRET RECIPE
It isn’t really that complicated, but it is difficult for people to implement. Each person in the relationship needs to focus on the things that brought them together. That’s it. Seriously.
You might be thinking that is too simple. Or maybe you already tried that. Did you?
I mean, did you really put a ton of effort into getting back to the things that brought the two of you together?
When you first started dating the person, you were attracted to them on at least a few levels. While the physical thing changes over time, and sometimes people think that the grass is greener on the other side, the core of most relationship issues is not physical.
In my experience, the real problem is with the connection that has been lost between the two people.
It is that connection that must be re-established.
Ask yourself why you started seeing the other person in the beginning. Did you have fun together? If so, what kinds of things did you do? What changed? Why did they change?
These kinds of questions can stimulate an avalanche of excuses from people. Some will say that they grew apart. Others try to claim that when they had kids, everything changed. Still more will say that they aren’t who they were when the relationship began.
That last one is tough. As humans, we are constantly changing, growing, evolving physically and with our characters. However, it is still possible to repair the damage, and it all begins with tracing your steps back to the things that brought the two of you together.
What created the connection between you? Dig deep into those things together, and take the time to revisit those experiences, ideas, and moments.
Action
It’s all well and good to talk about the theory of stuff, but does it really work? I never recommend anything to people if I haven’t either tried it myself, or seen it work on someone else. In this case, I actually put the idea to use in my own relationship.
When my girlfriend and I initially got together, we had plenty of deep, stimulating conversations. We read books together on the porch and spent a lot of time just talking or hanging out.
After a while, though, we became very comfortable with each other. We slipped into a mode much like many couples do, where we methodically ask how each other’s day was and then turn on the television to watch our favorite shows.
Somehow, we had found ourselves in the same situation many other people get into when they’ve been together for a prolonged period of time.
I could tell that she wasn’t as happy as she used to be, and I had to admit that I wasn’t feeling the same excitement about the relationship as I had when we got together. Instead of ending it and going our separate ways, I decided to get back to what brought us together in the first place.
I noticed that she reads a lot on her iPhone, and began asking her to share the articles she was reading with me by sending a link. Since she is constantly reading on her breaks at work or on the porch at home, this gave me a way to reconnect with what she was interested in.
And as we all know, communication is one of the most important things to have in a relationship.
I’ve talked to several people who are much older than I about this. Some of them have been married for forty years or more. The happiest ones always say the same thing.
They say to treat the relationship like it was new each and every day, and concentrate on the things that brought them together in the first place.
What’s your story? Have you been through something like this? What did you do? How did it turn out?
Being in a relationship is one thing and it not working out is another, if you want to be in a relationship that is healthy then follow these simple steps.
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Abundance of support and love.
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Support and love are the key aspects in having a healthy relationship, for a healthy relationship there should be abundance of support and love in it so it. You should be there to give your partner cheers and to motivate him or her through and equally love and cherish your partner.
Gifts giving.
Is a way of keeping the relationship happy all the time, surprising your partner with gifts make them feel happy and also make them know that you care very much about him or her. You can even go as far as throw your partner a birthday party, but even the simplest things count like buying him or her simple bracelet.
Be intimate.
Being intimate with your partner always strengthen the bonds the both of you share, giving out kisses, hugs, affection, confiding secrets, etc. gives you and your partner happiness and also knowing you trust him or her which keeps the relationship healthy and remember, a kiss a day keeps your partner.
Resolve Conflicts
Do not let a single day go by without resolving any conflict that has happened between you and your partner, when conflict or arguments occur don’t be scared or feel too proud to apologise to your partner or actually end it by dialogue, because an apology today can save your relationship tomorrow.
Be caring.
Caring for your partner is the key to a healthy relationship, always be caring to your partner and give him or her attention and thoughts about things. You can buy your partner flowers or ask the simplest questions like “how was your day?” or “you look tired, what happened?” these gestures show your partner that you care about him or her every much.
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Be your partner’s comforter
When your partner is going through rough times, you should be there to console and comfort him or her and also motivate your partner throughout the hard times to make them feel better by doing this you show you’re your partner your ready for the challenges ahead and also shows that you care about him or her every much.
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